We humans get extremely preoccupied with a lot of things.
When we wake up in the morning, we quickly get bombarded by a torrent of thoughts that come through from last night, with nothing but a few seconds of peace to enjoy the glorious silence that follows sleep.
And these thoughts keep rushing through as we move along the day. They’re there as you’re getting ready for work. They’re there as you prepare your meals. They’re there in the bathroom when you’re doing your business and when you’re cleaning yourself. They’re there at work, and if you hate work, they’re even more persistent there. And they’re still going to be there when you go home, get dinner, and sit down for a nice relaxing time spent in front of the TV or a book or a pet. And they’re still there up to the last precious moments before your eyes close as you finally give yourself to yet another night of restless sleep.
Most people think this is normal. They think it’s a natural part of being human. But just because this is what most of us are used to doesn’t mean it’s what we’re supposed to be experiencing.
As you very well know by now, you’re not just human. You’re not just that part of you that thinks and rationalizes and feels emotions you say you can’t control. That part of you is the human part. It’s what’s prone to making mistakes, playing small, and believing in the lies that fear makes.
And then there’s the other part of you—the bigger part, the more powerful part, and the part that’s truly who you are. This part of you makes the right decisions all the time, no exceptions. It looks forward to playing big because there’s no challenge in playing small. And it has no time to make dalliances with fear because it knows fear is nothing more than an illusion that you can, at any time, choose to opt out of.
That’s the part of you that’s connected to God. It’s the part of you that’s bound to the Universe. And it’s the part of you that holds all the power in existence—the very same power that created the mountains and the rivers and the stars and the planets. It’s the same power that allows you to create reality as you want it to be.
But first, you have to learn how to get past the human part of you—the thinking, rational part, which is also the part that blames your emotions for everything that goes wrong. So how do you do that when all your life you’ve been so attached to this part of yourself? It’s actually very simple. You simply drop everything else that isn’t the real you.
Here’s a clue. Anything that creates fear in you isn’t the real you. And anything that creates worry, doubt, and anxiety isn’t the real you. The real you knows fear, doubt, worry, anxiety, and anything that creates all of these things don’t really exist.
So when you’re watching the news about the impending end of the world, or when you’re hearing yet again another thinly veiled derogatory remark from someone you care about, or when you’re stressed out by the yippity-yappity of your coworkers gossiping about the most inconsequential things, you have to remember. None of this is real. None of this exists. And none of this can affect you in any way, reports on doom and gloom be damned.
The news can’t get you down. Insults from others can’t get you down. The whining of people who are too scared to live their lives to the fullest can’t get you down. But also you can’t get you down. Your own thoughts and emotions and beliefs and opinions can’t get you down. The world can throw its muck at you but if you know you’ve got nothing to be afraid of, none of what goes on outside of you is going to make an impact at all.
Because we can blame the media, the government, the churches, the educational systems, and our faulty cultures for our feelings of powerlessness. But mostly, it’s what we think about ourselves and who we are in relation to the world that propagates and perpetuates these feelings of fear.
It’s these thoughts that push us to make the wrong choices because we’re always afraid of making the right choices. That is the choices that expand us and push us beyond our human boundaries and make us grow fully into our true selves.
And it’s these thoughts we have about ourselves that we have to learn to detach from, even when they’re always on. You see, there’s really nothing wrong with having these thoughts. That’s just a normal part of being human. And for as long you’re alive, you’re still going to be part human, which means you’re still going to be having fearful thoughts.
But you don’t always have to pay attention to them. You don’t always have to believe in them. And you most certainly don’t have to think they are a part of you. They are part of your human self, but you know you’re more than that. You can keep choosing to let the human side of you take charge. Or you can choose to let the real you—the part that’s made of God-stuff—take over and surprise you with all the amazing things it can do.
Here’s something you can start practicing from now on. Next time you find yourself doing nothing, just stay there and observe your thoughts. Look at them like they’re little balloons (eco-friendly, if you want to) floating up, up, up to the sky.
Got distracted? It doesn’t matter. You can go back to imagining your thoughts as little balloons floating away. Got a sudden thought about what to make for dinner tonight? Note that down in a mental notebook then go back to observing your thoughts like you’re watching balloons in the sky.
Is your human brain particularly persistent on getting you back on the thought train? Yes, it’s always like that. And yes, it’s perfectly okay that it’s like that. Here’s what you can tell your brain. “Okay, brain. I get it that you want to think about the grocery store trip tonight, but I’m going to do this anyway.” Just keep saying that every time your brain wants to distract you. One day, you may realize that your brain has learned to stop nagging you with thoughts that aren’t your own. Or you may not. Either way, the practice of simply observing thoughts continues.
And what if these thoughts come with big, ugly emotions that are too heavy for you to imagine them as weightless balloons full of helium? Well, then, let the emotions sit there like the solid, heavy rocks they are until they start to dissipate into thin air. And by that, I don’t mean for you to ruminate over your emotions. I don’t mean for you to play and replay in your mind the situations that created these emotions. And I don’t mean for you to imagine how things would be like if these situations turned out differently.
I mean to just stay there and allow yourself to sink into that emotion, no matter how uncomfortable you think it can get. Can I tell you a secret? The emotions we don’t like to feel are really only uncomfortable for the first few seconds of feeling them. Unfortunately, most people don’t get past the first few seconds before they start throwing angry questions at God about why He would let this happen to them. And then they’d moan and wail thinking of how things would’ve been and could’ve been and should’ve been.
Don’t be like that. Don’t try to drown your emotions in analyzing and synthesizing and thinking of things you should’ve done to prevent things from happening. That’s what people who are deeply attached to their thoughts do. They think they can make things better by thinking about things, which is the very reason why things don’t get better for them.
Awareness is key here. It’s what we all need to practice. Be aware of your thoughts and emotions and strip that awareness of everything else. Don’t tack on possibilities. Don’t tack on what-could-have-been’s. Don’t tack on anything that’s going to derail you from pure and simple awareness of what is.
Because it’s in that moment where you’re simply being aware of the present that your power to create reality lies. Where your power lies is where you never thought it would be.